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Top 10 Tips To Become Outrageously Attractive
By Gina | May 11, 2008
When you see or hear the word ‘attractive’, I bet the first thing you think of are physical characteristics. Am I right? When you read the title of this article did you think of physical appearance? Well, I wrote this article to have you think outside the box and a bit deeper about what the word ‘attractive’ could mean.
I challenge you to implement the Top 10 Tips below and watch how people flock to you and it won’t be because your hair is perfect and your body is gorgeous. It will be because your inner beauty is shining through.
- Actually Listen: Look right at the eyes of the person talking to you and focus on them. Don’t think about what you are going to wear on your date tonight.
- Actually Let Them Finish What They’re Saying: Stop the urge to butt in and tell the person talking what you think before they are finished which brings me to my next tip…
- Don’t Give Your Opinion Unless You’re Asked: Most of the time people just want to be heard. If you say you will listen, then listen and don’t give advice unless they ask you for it.
- Don’t Judge: You never know what other people are going through or experiencing in their life unless they tell you.
- Don’t Try To Prove Others Wrong: Even if you’re right. People have different opinions and yours may be right for you and theirs may be right for them-leave it at that. If you keep trying to prove your point, you cause yourself suffering and that’s insane. As Eckhart Tolle, author of ‘The New Earth’ says, “Would you rather be right or at peace?”
- Don’t Brag: This only enhances your ego. Resist this urge and you will see how much more empowering it is!
- Don’t Tell Anyone What They Should Do: Everyone is on their own, unique, different path. You’re on your own path so why should someone else be following yours?
- Have No Expectations: If you don’t have any expectations of others, then you will suffer less and you, as well as the other people you interact with, will feel more free.
- Don’t React: If you allow others to be and not react to their actions or words, you will be in a state of peace and calm (which is very attractive!)
- P.I.I.P: Put it in perspective. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Is what you’re stressing over really going to matter a year from now? Or even in a month or week? Probably not.
So what do you think? Could you start with one of the above tips and implement it now?
If you do, let me know which one(s) you tried and how it made you feel. I’d love for you to share your comments.
with gratitude,
Gina
image by Ana Santos from Flickr via Creative Commons License
Topics: Personal Growth |
Technorati Tags: attractive, expectations, listen, perpective
May 13th, 2008 at 9:29 am
#10…I am trying this on a daily basis. some days it’s harder then other days, but it will be a nice stress reliever if I can follow it more.
#8…I have tried this with a few people. It does help, but I feel I am letting people get away with not being a better person but I guess that brings me back to #7…
I will visit these tips often
May 13th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
Hey Gina, for those of you reading this that don’t know me, I’m Gina’s “proud” older and only brother, Joe.
These 10 tips are amazing. But I have to comment on number 10 specially. This is great when you are worried about maybe getting to an appointment, dropping off a child at practice, and waiting in line and the person in front of you is fumbling through their purse or wallet and you are in some great hurry for who knows what. But for me it is really a great one to use in your relationship.
My wonderful wife Maria taught me this one years ago. It is very easy to make a mountain out of a mole hill and I used to do that sometimes. With that comes an argument and plenty of stress on you and your relationship. I might get mad because someone left the lights on, didn’t close the door to the outside. Maybe she forgot to by my favorite snack at the grocery store or something stupid like that. Or how about these, someone drops something, maybe even of great value and it breaks, I guess I can go on and on. Things happen like this all the time and it happens and used to happen with me. How you handle it at that point is up to you. Maria said to me way in the beginning of our relationship, “ Put it in perspective, is this really worth arguing over? Does it make any difference at this point? She wouldn’t get upset back at me, just smile at me and say something like that. What a wonderful person she is. She made me look at things differently. This is my second wife and last wife. I have been married 13 years now and am a very lucky person to have her. Arguing is not something done in our lives thanks to her and P.I.I.P.
Take this one to heart!
May 13th, 2008 at 7:00 pm
Katie, you’re so funny…I love when you say….
‘guess this brings me back to #7′. I hope you do visit these tips often because once you really start becoming aware of them and practice them, you are so much more at peace and centered.
Tip #8 can be hard because we are so conditioned to ‘expect things’. Did you hear a lot of ‘you should of’s’ or ‘you could have’s’ growing up? We are so impressionable at such young ages and we see and hear things and take them for how they should be-then we grow up- and hopefully start to question some of them!
As for #10, usually you could think of something worse that could be happening to you than what is happening to you at that time…I mean, if you could choose what you’re stressing over at the time over being on your death bed, you’d probably choose the former…but then who knows…..maybe death isn’t that bad……that’s something I’m still working on!
May 13th, 2008 at 7:12 pm
Hey bro,
So cool you’re commenting on my blog! And love that you find these tips useful.
I have to agree with you that Maria is amazing…she’s been through some stressful times too and it seems that she’s chosen to grow from them rather than have them harden her.
Love your comments, especially the one about waiting in line. I actually use that as a practice every time I’m in line. I purposely look around and see how people are reacting-try it and check out some of their faces and body language-and like you said, people seem to be in such a hurry, but for what? To get to the next place so they can hurry there so they can get to the next and the next and so on.
Life passes by way too fast-if I spend it like that, hurrying everywhere, what kind of life is that?
PIIP bro and live fully!
love ya,
Gina
May 14th, 2008 at 8:31 am
Lady, You’ve been “readin’ my mail”, as my late-ex would say!
I try to live in these points every day - #3 and #5 are probably my biggest challenges, right now.
This is a great refrigerator-door list for anyone trying to achieve Serenity, as well as Be More Attractive!
Bright Blessings!
Karen
May 14th, 2008 at 9:26 am
[...] blog by one of the members of Alicia’s Coaching Cafe - Gina Rafkind of VedaSun.com! Her post “Top 10 Tips To Become Outrageously Attractive” is a beautifully articulated plan for achieving Serenity, as well (Especially #10!). A co-worker [...]
May 14th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Being a mother of 3 young children I am trying to influence these ways on them, so they may have less stress and a calmer way about their life practices. I am trying to let them see me handle life in a calmer more productive manner. But even when I mess up and maybe overreact about something I will share with them how I want to try and handle it next time.
#6- Not to Brag. This is so very important. I Knew a man who his entire short life was about being proud, but not over doing it. His parents raised him this way and my parents tried to instill this in our family, and I now will try to instill this in my young family. This man passed away touching so many people’s lives, I truely believe that he changed each person that he not only came in contact with but anyone who read about him this past October. His name is Brian Flurey…we knew him as Bubba. He was a local Baseball player who was drafted to the professional league and then found out he had cancer. He didn’t let it hold him back, he changed his direction. just thought I would share this with you.
May 14th, 2008 at 3:41 pm
Karen,
Thanks for stopping by! I hear ya on tips 3 and 5, sometimes the urge is there and you just want to let it out, but it’s so much more empowering, and attractive ;-), not to-of course unless you’re asked!!
with gratitude,
Gina
May 14th, 2008 at 3:49 pm
Hi Katie,
Using the awareness you are attaining in life and sharing that with your children-well, you are just pretty darn amazing! Showing them by practicing it yourself-that’s awesome. How lucky are they!!!
I think you may know I’m a huge fan of Eckhart Tolle and if you want to really become aware and help your kids even more, check out “The New Earth.” You may have read it already, if not, I think you are definitely ready for it!
Bubba sounds amazing. Sometimes people touch other’s lives without hardly speaking a word. Thanks for sharing.
abundant wishes,
Gina